The part about divorce I don't understand is why the MOTHER or WIFE always comes out ahead and the guy is left is the fricking poorhouse. One of my buddies who was married for almost 30 years comes home one day and totally out of the blue gets served papers!! He had adopted his wife's kids and raised them as his own with no support from their biological father. She gets 70 grand as her "share" of the house plus over 100,000 of investments they had accumulated. Lets not forget she gets half of his retirement which is about 2500 a month and he got half of hers which is like 600 a month. She got a new car and a huge house with no mortgage at all. He now had to refinance his paid off house and take out loans to pay her. And the funny thing is she had a BOYFRIEND!!! A GOOD LAWYER will save your butt... I am a firm believer in working things out. I am convinced most divorces can be avoided. People just get in a bad spot and think its time to split.