If you wait for the wind to quit blowing to go fishing in Oklahoma, you'll never get to go fishing in Oklahoma. I can't speak specifically for crappie fishing, as I am no expert, but I have fished and boated here for over 40 years.
Some wind helps, ex, slow trolling or running bottom bouncers. Get a wind sock (or 2). I think it helps with still fishing and shallow water also because surface disturbance reduces their above surface visibility.
High winds range from just being a hassle ( launching, loading a boat; rapid depletion of trolling motor batteries; casting, holding over a spot) to real danger on the water. Smaller lakes are easier, if theres not a lot of timber. Fiberglass boats are better than aluminum or pontoons, as far as getting blown around.
Generally, I go to the ponds if it's over, say 20 mph or so, depending on where. I've had some dynamite days bass fishing ponds in extreme winds, all seasons. Especially bright, clear middays when dead calm winds would probably shut a bite down. I think it stimulates activity, maybe invertebrate activity, then up the food chain. Or maybe oxygenation, esp. in summertime. Winds will also raise water temperature quickly, which I am expecting (hoping?) will happen this week.
We've probably all been out there when we shouldn't have been at one time or another. If it frightened you, you have exceeded your risk level, and should know where to draw the line. If it's your boat and you're with a buddy, you are liable for both of you. Bag it if you think you should, no matter what he says. If you are in the back of the boat, tell him to take you back to the dock if he wants to kill himself.
Dying doing something you love might be the way to check out, but I wanna fish somemore.