Sounds like a lot of common issues all in one for you. The regulator could be bad or not fine enough. The material could be bad or just bad brand choices. 2 inch is kinda small and could be part of the problem. Could be bad seals somewhere or it could simply be Murphy's law in full effect.
Stirring and dipping works well and so does sprinkling but you will never go back to it once you get a fluid bed to work properly. The price of the setup to either buy the first or make one isn't bad. Getting the extra cups is really inexpensive. The vibrating motor will help with a lot of colors, I have seen the difference although I haven't gotten one yet. I wish I had one or maybe 3 of them. The vibration will keep the powder from developing stagnant holes for volcanoing and is especialy useful for black and other heavy colors.
I love taking my kids fishing, now if I could just manage to fish at the same time.