Off Subject, Divorce

[ROHR23]

Does any one know a good divorce lawyer? My brother is going to be going through a fairly cut throat divorce soon. He lives in central IL so one in the area of Mattoon/Charleston to Champaign/Urbana and local communities would be good. Any advice would be appreciated. He is a die hard duck hunter and may not be able to go as much this season...

[Pool13_Jeff]

Don't know of one down that way, but my thoughts are with him. I wanted mine and am mostly glad I did it, but sometimes I have feelings of guilt for doing it to my sons. My ex lied and manipulated those kids so much it was unbelievable. Well, she manipulated one of them and the other would tell her to stop. The one that was manipulated by his mother is 22 years old and has major problems because of it. I tried to take the high ground and five years later am so glad for it. I have become a much better father since I left her and the boys know it. My advice to your buddy is no matter what happens, if there are kids, don't put them in the middle and don't bash their mom to them. Keep all communication to letters and emails if at all possible. Keep those emials and letters. Keep all receipts for money spent on the kids, but don't let the kids know he is doing it. Don't want the kids to think of it as keeping score.

[Hanr3]

I highly recommend he talk to all of them, before she does. If they take her on as a client, it becomes a conflict of interest.
You get what you pay for, going cheap means a less experienced attorney or one not willing to dedicate the time to the case.
Having said that, if this is going to be a nasty divorce, the attorney's will end up with all your money, house, and cars. Not directly, but you will be borrowing or selling them off to pay the fees, for you and her. I highly recommend they settle this outside of the court room and only go to teh attorney when they have it all worked out.

My younger brother (family law) and oldest sons (criminal defense) are attorneys. My younger brother sees it all the time, the couple takes a vengfull stance and the only one with money when its all said and done is the attorney. FYI= the going rate is about $250 per hour. Doesn't take long to burn through 10-30 grand.

One last thing, nobody wins in a divorce. By its very nature a divorce is a lose/lose situation. I highly recommend they seek counciling first. Every married couple goes through hard times.

[Billbob]

amen on that

[MeanV2]

X2!!

Dan

amen on that

[hairy lures]

Tell him it's gonna be cheaper to keep her!
Every marriage has problems. Work them out! It'll be so much better for all concerned.

[gonepostal1210]

Situations like this is exactly why I have always preached to my 21 year old kid, is that the second biggest decision they will ever make is who they choose to reproduce with, DON'T MAKE IT A BONEHEAD. I hope that things work out best for your brothers kids if there are any.

[cajun fryer]

Most of all look out for the kids. This is very hard on the kids I don't care what anybody says.
Then it will be all about money. She will get more and more (for the kids) but she won't use it all on the kids.
And most of all it was already said do NOT bash the mother anywere the kids can here it. That will destroy the kids.
No matter how big a Bitch she will be. She is STILL there mother.

good luck do wish this on anyone.

[Crappie Scout]

do what i did. fire the lawyer and refuse to sign the papers until you get what is fair

[lhumphre]

do what i did. fire the lawyer and refuse to sign the papers until you get what is fair

LMAO....i needed a good chuckle....