I will pray for your wife and your family. What a burden she will feel she has to bare. It is amazing how we all let things get in the way of just loving and appreciating one another. I know she is going to go through the "If I only woulda, coulda, and shouldas, but there is nothing she can do to change the past. However, she can change future event by starting today. Her brother still has a wife and kids that GREATLY need her support right now. New good family memories can be made by both families spending time together and children from both sides getting to know one another. It is a shame that we have to learn the hard way, but after we see the error of our ways, we do not have to continue to make the same mistakes. She also needs your support more than ever right now. You are going to get tired of hearing the same stories over and over again, but she needs you to listen and not judge. I will pray for you both.