kinda sounds like the difference between a wife and a girlfriend....or maybe if you knew she was with someone else or you just happened to find her. If I see someone on one of MY hard earned places, TWICE, it becomes an eating place and I will burn it every time I'm near it. I refuse to enjoy seeing someone else on top of my girlfr,,,,I mean brushpile. on the other hand, I do find a lot of stuff that I'm sure wasn't grown there. It all evens out.