I don't do good with them "help" books. The councelor gave me some to read last year. Seems like they all say the man is the A hole. We watched a movie last year about a fireman and troubles between he and his wife. At first I thought it was going to be about her transgressions. But, by the end it turned out he was an A hole too; and made her be that way.
BTW
I flunked out on the counceling. But, we have managed to make it another year with out it.
She likes me right now. Maybe I should shut up.
DP