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Guys, many of you have been married longer than I. So here’s the problem:
I don’t really know how to interpret what my wife says on occasion.
For instance, when she says “,
You spend too much time on your boat! “ I am really wondering what she’s trying to say.
If you guys could help me figure this out , it would be great.
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That means she wants to go too.
Means you are not spending enough time with her
Means she is trying to get you out of the house by telling you to get out fishing more, the boat is not a trophy that sits in the garage.
If my wife told me that then I'd be out fishing the next three days....early morning to dark. Then....I'd agree that Ive been spending ALOT of time on the boat! ;)
Sell your boat. Problem solved!
The first thing my wife ask me at night before she goes to bed is " are you fishing tomorrow so I know had to plan my day" so I think she kinda gave up on me when she figured out I had an addiction to crappie fishing. Brett she might be saying your living in your boat instead of your house [emoji41]
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She is telling you to buy anew rigged out boat so you have more time to spend actually fishing.
Woman have a need for security that can only be meet by physical proximity. Have you ever wondered why they blabber on about things that they know you are not interested in or want you to sit quietly watching a movie. You tend to think of you as your thoughts but that is not the person that your wife necessarily wants around. Of course you had to be witty and charming when dating and the courting ritual is reenacted throughout marriage but most of the time you become just another comforting object, like a child's teddy bear. Don't ever get the idea that doing what you want to do is justified because your wife doesn't seem interested in the you that you think you are. That you doesn't exist in your wife's mind. The person your wife sees you as is inseparable from how she sees her place in the world.
If a man wants to do something their wife isn't interested in a man will wonder why she can't find her own interests so you both can do what you enjoy. That is because men are not as susceptible to negative emotions and see relationships as just one aspect of life. Men compartmentalize work, play and relationships and don't see one aspect of their lives as a threat to other areas. Dependency on the stability of the nest inherently breeds anxiety.
It would be wrong to think that negative emotions in this context are something to do away with. Nagging is caring at the subconscious level. Men going away has always come with the possibility of them never returning. Unfortunately going away has always been necessary at the same time. That relationships are central to the hearth but not the campfire explains in part why women are less inclined towards what men see as practical necessity unrelated to relationships.
The best way to resolve female anxiety about masculinity is for them to have lots of close friends.
One last thought dogs are animals we do things with, cats are animals that inhabit the same space we do. Dogs love us for the things we do cats accept us as part of their world.
Exactly my thoughts but I needed confirmation!Quote:
Originally Posted by "D"
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