small things

can so change the way you look at things
a few years ago right or wrong i left a very well paided job where i had to work any where from 50 to 80 hours a week. i worked this job for many years and i put in allways more then 50 hours a week after my son was born i seem to work even harder to keep us in the life that we had. well after leaving i tuk a job with my church 2 days a week and started a biz on the side that did not so bad for the most part. its about all but gone now betine health prob and a 2nd son to the mix money hasnt been something we have had in a few years. one of the great helps is that my wife has a great job and got a big promotoin 1 /12 years ago and i still make enuff to keep the big bills paided.
this past sat i wasnt in a good state of mind i work now 3 days at the church and i have my 2 sons the rest of the time so we can raise them with out day care something we have tryed to to since my first son was born. i neaver signed up to be a house husben or that guy most of my friends say i lost my pair
well sunday comes im still in a bad mood and starting my 16 hour day at the church that i realy just wanted to be anywhere other then there. now this is a very big church and my wife and kids go there most poeple dont even know me or seem to care im there other then to let them in .but this sunday a man who i dont know and neaver even seen befor walks up and ask was ronnie my son at first i think or no what did he do lol he is all boy and norm the first to be into something and i say yes why. he tells me how he was picking up the heilm books after church and ronnie jumped in and helped him not for like 2 min but the hole 30 mins it tuke<its a real big church> and how he was so nice and talked like a very nice young man and how he couldnt belive he was only 7 and told me i should be proud of him. i thanked him with a big smile and went on my way to get my work done. then as just like every sunday my wife brings me lunch and we eat as a faimly and my 8 month old says his first word and it was daddy. my cold heart broke that there

see when ronnie was a baby i neaver saw him i was working none stop trying to give him a good life. i missed out on everything his first steps his first word<mommy btw lol> everything thats was cool to him i didnt have time for i was at work. and sat i was taking for granted the time i had with him now and charlie too. when it hit me i sat in that church and cryed.
guys i know we sapost to give my faimlys a great life and all the things then want and need.but take time out for whats realy matters your faimly its the best pay check you will ever get

your friend the broke and keep man <who can out fish most of ya lol ok well some>
alan
sorry so long

Thank you so much for such an uplifting post Alan. It is people like you that make Crappie.com what it is today. GOD Bless you.

Hello Allan, sounds like you have a lot to be thankful for. great family. now thats worth working for. may God bless you and your family. Jimmy S.:)

Alan, some things can't be measured in a W-2 and it seems you've found it. The memories you have when you get older will also be your kids memories. I did the same thing with a past job by working alot of hours and missing so many memories. I changed careers and money can't buy my what I have now with the appearances at practices and weekends with the family. Enjoy what we have and make the most of it. Good luck and God Bless. Rollcaster.............

When it come right down to it all we end up with is memories and in that aspect you are a very rich man. I worked two fulltime jobs and later I worked a fulltime an part time job. It is easy to get caught up in trying to provide your family with things and all they really want and need is your time. God Bless your family and may God give you your hearts desire.