My daughter is engaged to be married, don't know what to think

[rugsrme]

Just throwing this out there for ya' all to give me advice as a father.
She will be 21 April 2, she graduated from High School, and a Cosmetology school, has a good job, guy is ok, no "red flags" he works for me now so he could have a better job and he is 24.
Funny part: I told my wife, "they aren't 'engaged' until they have a ring and a date". She told her what I said and she said to her mom "He took me to Wendys for lunch when he gave me the ring" so now they set a date, reserved a time with the judge on July 15.
I guess I'm just in a "funk" over the whole thing. I think they may be too young, even though there is no grand babies coming or anything like that..........
I've been nice about the whole thing, my wife is all forward with plans for family to get here, even my Mom is excited (at least it will get here here from NV:rolleyes
Is it just a chick thing? or should I be concerned????

[bugman]

They're young but it sounds like they have their head on straight,go with it and wish em well........it worked out well for me.

[Speck]

Been through it twice Quinn. You'll never find anyone good enough for you daughters but evenditually you learn to accept them.

["G"]

I know where your at and how you feel ( mine got married about 19 years ago), but its out of your control so to speak.........all you can do is let her live her life and just love her and pray for her.

[JohnnyLaw]

could be worse, the guy could be that fishing equipment stealing parasite, or a lazy non working dope head.

They are young adults you must let them lead their own lives and pray they make the right decisions and always be there for them we they need support and advice.

but CONGRATS ANYWAY:D

[WantinCrappie]

Man Rugs, that's a tuff one. Wish I had the right answers for you.

My daughter turned 4 years old yesterday and I've already been worried about how I will handle her dating let alone getting married.

Best of luck to you and your family my friend.

[lhumphre]

Take him fishin and maybe just lay out your expectations..then there is no worries about what you expect out of him and the kind of man your daughter deserves...i am newly married and my father in law did this to me and coming from a father it gives you a total different insight...

[Crappiekiller3]

Take him fishin and maybe just lay out your expectations..then there is no worries about what you expect out of him and the kind of man your daughter deserves...i am newly married and my father in law did this to me and coming from a father it gives you a total different insight...

Good advice! Like some else said Rugs, no one is good enough for your daughter!! Having said that, mine is 46 now and doing very well despite all
her fathers concerns. Her husband now is a fisherman and hunter. Maybe that's the qualifying question, does he fish? They'll do fine Rugs, go work on the boat or go catch some crappie and let them live their life, make mistakes like we did and enjoy each other. I'd find him another job though, too much
family is not so good!!! Enjoy, Rugs and congrats to the young couple!!!

[Bob # 1]

It will be fine
Have 5 children married
21 grandchildren
2 greatchildren

[Redneck]

Well Rugs I am new to the father business and I am dreading the day that I am in your shoes, hopefully I can be as calm about it as you are. It sounds like they have their heads on straight. If you are having second thoughts I hate to say it but it is probably best to keep them to yourself. If you push they are just going to be more determined to do it anyway. All you can do it step back and watch their lives turn out well and step in with the Dad card when necessary. Best of luck to the your couple and I doubt any part of this problem cannot be cured with a cold beer.