I have found a system that works for me. Has taken me a long time to get here though. My wife watches our budget and spending close as a miser. If I need anything and buy it she chastises me for it. If I ask first she says, "now do you have to get that or can you live with out it." Loaded question so anything I say is not good. If I want anything, I casually come in out of the shop, make a cup of coffee and say in my conversation to the wife, "I was trying to do something but don't have exactly what I need." She asks what I was doing and what I need. I tell her and so far she has decided to get it for me and immediately, not sometime later. Win-Win.

